What Does Healing Look Like?

Something I’ve been explaining to clients for years - which I don’t think I’ve even told my students about - is about how healing looks.
Specifically, that it’s not a straight line on a graph.

The analogy I’ve found myself offering, time and time again, is that of a slab of iceberg dropping into the sea.

I saw a video once, entitled something like “Caught on Camera: Huge Iceberg Collapsing”, in which the first five minutes is just this massive frozen monolith towering over the Antarctic sea, nothing but the occasional tiny chunk of snow tumbling off and splashing into the water a hundred feet below. It really looked like nothing was happening - or was going to happen.
​
Then, suddenly, in the last 20 seconds of the video...

---

...what looks like a continent-worth of ice just suddenly lets go and drops, sending huge waves out in all directions as it cleaves the water.

Healing is like this. My own healing, in fact, was like this!

The depression that had led me to EFT was so bad, and had so stubbornly resisted all my efforts to get rid of it, that when I was doing that two bouts of hourlong tapping a day after first reading the how-to manual, I had ZERO expectation I was doing anything that would make a big - let alone a permanent - difference! The only reason I was doing that much tapping was that it was giving me relief from the pain. Relief I thought was temporary - but relief nonetheless.

I remember the moment, on about day 6 or 7, when about 20 minutes in to my tapping it was as if my depression fell off me like that slab of iceberg releasing. Only, it was even more instantaneous. One second I was still in the grips of depression, and the next second I was free of it. Restored to a me I hadn’t seen in a decade. It happened so fast it was slightly disorienting. I have this funny vision of myself sitting there on the bed blinking in surprise, trying to figure out what had just happened!

I think it was fortunate that I didn’t know what EFT could do back then, because if I had known, I probably would have been feeling impatient or even hopeless (at hour 10 of tapping, for example), that I was still grappling with my depression.
And I might have given up - just two, three or four hours of tapping away from permanent healing!

So many clients of mine have experienced the exact same thing: Small, incremental progress followed by sudden watershed moments of huge change.
It’s the way nature works that much of what creates that change is happening at a level too deep for us to see at first.

So, if you’ve been tapping and haven’t had the big shifts you’ve been hoping for - don’t despair! It might be that you just haven’t tapped enough yet.

Of course, it could also be that your tapping technique could use a bit of tweaking.

I have three workshops coming up and one might be right for you:

If you’ve already done an EFT training workshop and want to supercharge the way you tap, take my upcoming one day Clarity Tapping workshop online and see why people are raving about it.

If you’re trained and you’ve been working with clients for at least a year and feel you’re ready to go up to the next level, my Advanced Practitioner workshop is online this year as well.

If you’ve never done an EFT workshop - or want to learn the Evidence Based way of doing Clinical EFT, I’ve got you covered in February - again, online - with a 3 day Practitioner Workshop.

I hope it's helped you, in any case, to think of me tapping for 12-14 hours that first week after I learned EFT - to know I wasn't one of those elusive one minute miracle cases.

Yes it was only a week - but it was a LOT of hours.
​
And every single one was worth it. So keep going!